I was at coffee with a friend this past weekend who I hadn't seen in quite some time. We were catching each other up on big moves, large life changes, the new and the old. And like most girlfriend chats go, we started sharing a bit of what we were currently processing and wrestling with. The big things in our hearts. What we were struggling with. What we were asking God to speak into. And for both of us, it really came down to:
We want control.
Maybe it's because I surround myself with ambitious folks or maybe it's because it truly is a common theme for most...but man, I feel like so many people (including myself) struggle with control. And I say struggle because it. is. exhausting. to always try to be in control. There's an unrest in the soul that comes from trying to do it all, trying to figure it all out and trying to be everything to everyone. You just can't keep it up.
At the very core of it, though, our need for control is rooted in a disbelief that God will pull through. That He is actually who He says He is. That He actually knows best and can move mountains. Our problem is also that we want to know the future. But you know what? All of the best things that have happened to me have never been things I predicted. They've never been the things I meticulously plotted and planned and overanalyzed as if it was a business plan or product roadmap. It's happened because God moved, He showed up and He delivered in ways I couldn't have dreamt up.
And yet, we are so quick to forget that He does this. We think that it's all on us to manipulate, maneuver and manifest everything.
We fear that God will forget that we have a deep desire for marriage or kids, so we try to control situations, don't wait for His best and lower our expectations.
We fear that God will not restore broken relationships, so we mull and obsess and freak out over the most minute details.
We fear that God won't provide physically & monetarily for us, so we let anxiety take over and lose hope.
We fear that God won't heal us, so we we look for healing in things that actually hurt us all over again.
But he's actually setting the table for you and for me.
He's telling each one of us to bring Him our ish. He knows we've got issues. (Lord, don't we have issues...) He doesn't want us to be in control. He wants us to be at rest. So delegate it out. Be the COO in your life and delegate those CEO-worthy issues out to the ultimate CEO = Your Maker. He can handle the pressure.
So you're frustrated you're single and are feeling hopeless that a nice soulmate will come your way? Delegate it to God.
So you're feeling downtrodden by relationships that just feel hard and you don't know how to fix them? Delegate it to God.
So you're scared that you won't be able to make ends meet this month and you don't know where to turn? Delegate it to God.
So you're struggling to get through past hurts and you can't seem to get the breakthrough? Delegate it to God.
Just delegate it out. Put it on a piece of paper and sign it over to God. Give Him CEO privileges. Right now, pull out a piece of paper and write, "I sign over _____ to you God." Insert whatever is stressing you most.
Think of Him as the Olivia Pope of your life, where He says over and over again, "It's handled." (Alright, alright...I've been watching a lot of Scandal.) Relieve yourself of the pressure to figure it all out, have it altogether or be everything to everyone. You're exhausted of that.